If you’ve followed along, you know about my brief series on Threesomes.  Well, we’ve covered if your ready, preparing for the problems, and finding a third.  Now it’s time to get down to business.

Pre-Event

There are things that will need to be done before the threesome actually occurs.

  • Set the rules, which, if you’ve read any of my previous thoughts on this, you would have already done.  And I don’t just mean the rules between you and your partner.  Your third very well may have her own rules as well (**Side note** I am typically referring to a FFM, as this is what I have experience with…  Once I’ve had a MMF, you can bet your ass I’ll be writing about that too).
  • Be prepared.  Have things you may need throughout the night.  Lube, condoms, dental dams (if you’re using them), and whatever else you may want to play with.  And, if this is your first time, and you didn’t discuss it earlier, don’t go too crazy here.  I mean, I’m all for a good flogging, but it may freak out a stranger that you just invited to your bed if you pull out a cat-o-nine and a butt plug the size of your wrist.  You may want to save those for the second date.  Or third.
  • Safety first.  I’ve talked about it before, and I’ll talk about it again.  Wrap it up, at a minimum.  And change condoms when switching back and forth between girls.  And I know it sounds like a stupid pain in the ass, but so is herpes.

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Meeting
You will need to decide when and where to meet to get the evening started.  And there are many options to consider, depending on your idea of what the overall feel of the night should be.
  • Restaurant.  Dinner is always an option, but it will make it feel more like a date, not just fucking.  Either is fine, depending on your preference.  If you are looking for solely sex, than dinner may not be the best bet.  But if you are looking to woo your third, than this is a great idea.
  • Club or Bar.  This allows you to mingle a bit.  Have a few drinks (and just a FEW… like two or three, no more) and relax into each others’ company.  Again, this will make the night a little more of a date, but not as much as going out to dinner.
  • Bedroom.  Where ever that may be (at your home or a hotel).  Doing it this way leaves no
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    impression that the night is about sex anything other than sex.  Pure and simple, raw, hot sex.  The important thing to remember if you are just getting right to it, is what do you do from the point of her knocking on the door until you get into bed.  Someone will have to make the first move.  And this all depends on the situation and the girl.  Talk about this before hand.  You don’t want everyone standing around with their hands in their pockets, not knowing what to do.

Where

There are many different ways your threesome could play out.  And the scene can become very important.  There are different things to consider when planning where it’s all going to go down.

  • Your house — Some people are most comfortable doing it in their own home.  Others not so much.  And some thirds won’t be comfortable coming to your house, especially if it’s in an unknown area.  After all, depending on how you found your third, she could pretty much be a complete stranger…  There are also somethings that you will need to plan for if engaging in a threesome at home.  First, if you have children, make sure they are staying at grandma’s house for the weekend.  You don’t need to have to explain who that other woman in bed with daddy is… Along these same lines, prepare for visitors.  What will you do or say if someone randomly drops in.  You never know, so always plan for the worst…
  • I suggest using a hotel.  It’s neutral and puts everyone on the same playing field.  Plus it’s sexy (hotels always turn me on).  There is a rawness there, something a bit naughty, that adds just a bit more edge to the situation.  And, worst case scenario, and the whole situation sucks, not only will you not have a complete stranger knowing where you live, but you won’t have the visual imprint of it every time you walk into your bedroom.

The Main Event

Once things get into motion, it’s easy to get lost in the moment.  But there are things that you need to keep in mind as hands and mouths touch, stroke, and prod.

  • There is all sorts of advice out there on who should be the focus of the threesome.  Some say
    Kama Sutra Illustrationyou should make your wife the focus of the party, as this will keep her from feeling jealous and rejected.  Others say you should make the third the main receiver, as she is the one that is making it happen for you.  And others conclude that if both women focus on the man, then that will be the ultimate fantasy.  I say fuck all that and mix it up.  In a good threesome, every person is the focus of attention at some point.  Or five points.  Or ten, depending if you’re fucking all night.  Let each person lay back, relax, and get to have two people fawning over them, making them cum.  Why the hell not!
  • Along these same lines, there will be times that the main event only really requires two people.  That means that there will be times when one of you has to take a back seat.  That doesn’t mean that you can’t be involved, it’s just you won’t be a main player.  When this happens, there are multiple ways you can entertain yourself (**wink*wink**).  My favorite, is to sit back and enjoy the show.  You are here for a reason, to enjoy a threesome.  To share another person with your partner.  So watch.  Touch yourself.  Enjoy.  You can also just kiss and touch.  No matter
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    what positions and activities, there will always be a body part that you can touch, kiss, lick.  Do it.

  • There will most likely be times when things become a little awkward.  Just remember to laugh and move on.
  • And remember your check-ins with your partner.  Whether it is a look, or a certain word, or a squeeze of the hand, make sure that you are both doing alright throughout the evening.  If anyone begins to get uncomfortable, stop, discuss it, and then move on.  It may sound lame, but, believe me, it’s worth it.

Afterwards

It’s done.  The sex is over.  You are all exhausted.  Sore.  Satisfied.  Now what?

  • Decide beforehand where everyone is sleeping.  Is your third spending the night?  Or is she going home?  If she does stay, is everyone going to be comfortable in the morning?  Will you go for another round (morning wood, anybody)?  Talk about it before things get underway, as it will eliminate the weirdness later.
  • Are you going to see her again or was this a one-time-only type of event?  What if she wants to see you again?  Think about it.  Talk about it.  Be prepared for the questions.
  • Thank her.  Perhaps even send her flowers with a nice little note, letting her know that you enjoyed your time together.  Again, without her, all you would have had was fantasies.
  • Talk about it with your partner.  What was good?  What was bad?  What could have been better or done differently?  What sort of emotions were there?  Jealousy?  What turned you on?  There is no such thing as talking about it too much.  Especially if it turned you both on.  Why not think about it…  Especially while touching each other…

Final Thoughts

So far, I’ve talked about different aspects of threesomes.  Discussed if you’re ready, talking about it, finding someone, and pulling it off.  What did I miss?  Is there anything you still have questions about?  If so, just ask.  🙂