Okay, so maybe a chick shouldn’t be writing about the perfect blow job.  It very well might be a job for a man.  But I’m not 100% sure on that.  I

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don’t know if M has the slightest clue what I’m doing with my hands, mouth, tongue when I’m going down on him.  So, I’m going to try my best, give you all the advice I can think of…  Because being able to give good head is important.  It’s important for your man.  It’s important for your self-esteem, and it’s important to your own sexuality.

I personally love to give head.  It’s turns me on immensely.  I can start sucking M’s dick and within five minutes I’m dripping wet, ready to fuck like crazy, and I haven’t even been touched, except maybe for a hand rolled up into my hair.  One of the reasons I love it so much is because it’s sexy to give someone so much pleasure.  I love to see him with his head thrown back, eyes shut, and mouth open.  Just feeling, not thinking, no emotion, just pure sensation.  It makes me mad with lust.  To know that I’m doing that; there’s nothing better (well…  maybe that’s a little far-fetched, but you get my drift).

So how do you get there..

Use Your Tongue

A good blow job does not just start with you pulling him deep into your mouth.  Instead, start slow, using your tongue on him.  I typically run my tongue up and down the length of M’s dick, as this allows for some lubrication that will allow my lips to slip over his cock much easier.  After that, I like to start at the top and work my way down.  Lick him around the head of his dick, like a lollipop. With my tongue out, he likes the way it looks.  The head is often the most sensitive area on his package, so pay some attention to it.  Lick around the gland, and around the rim.  If he’s circumcised, the area where his scar is, tends to be very sensitive.  Play with it, lick it, tickle it, press your tongue against it.  This gets him warmed up and ready for you to take him in your mouth.  But still, don’t forget to use your tongue, it’s just as important now as it is at the beginning.

  • While he’s in your mouth, keep your tongue pressed against the bottom of his cock.  This will add extra pressure, intensifying the feelings.
  • Move your tongue around inside your mouth.  M likes it when I run the tip of my tongue up and down along his cock while I bob my head up and down on it.
  • As you pull your head towards the tip of his cock, swirl your tongue around the head before you plunge back down.
  • Mix it up.  Try different things.  Watch for his responses so you know what he’s enjoying and what he’s not.

And Your Hands…

Your mouth is smaller than the average penis by about 3 inches.  And as much as you think you may want to deep throat, it really is not necessary and is harder than it looks (unless you’re a porn star).  The easiest way to stimulate his whole package, when only half of it fits comfortably into your mouth is to use your hands.  The easiest technique, in my humble opinion, is to wrap one of your hands around the base of his penis (depending on his size, you may not need your whole hand-change if necessary) so that when you take him as deep as comfortable for you, your lips are hitting the top of your hand.  As you move your head up and down, have your hand follow right behind.  This is a basic move that you can modify in many ways.  And if you let him fuck your mouth, I definitely suggest using this move so you don’t gag.

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  • Most of the time, it will be natural for you to apply more pressure, both with your lips and your mouth, on the way up to the tip, then “loosen” up on the way down.  Try switching this around.  Make the motion up the “softer” of the two, and tighten your hand/lips on the way down.  This is different from what is normally done, even in a hand job, so it will give him some new sensations.
  • Make sure that there is lots of lubrication.  Twist your hand around his penis back and forth.  If you need a break with your mouth, put one hand above the other and twist them in opposite directions.  Vary your pressure and gauge his response to see what feels best for him.
  • Again, mix it up while you’re going down on him.  Change the pattern of your movement, change the speed, change the strength of your grip.  See what he likes and go from there.

And Lips

Your lips might be one of the best secrets you have while performing a blow job.  Unless M is fucking my face or I’m bobbing my head super fast, I try to keep my lips tight on his cock.  To the point that when his cock pulls out of my mouth, it makes a “pop” noise.  Make an “Oh” shape with your lips and keep some pressure on his cock.  Everyone knows that boys like a tight pussy, so why wouldn’t they like something tight while they are getting their dicks sucked as well.  The issue that arises, for me at least, is after about four-five minutes, my lips will tend to go numb.  So again, mix it up, keep it fresh.

Don’t Swallow…  Yet

When sucking his dick, your may drool a little.  This is good.  Don’t swallow it, let it drip down over his cock and your hands.  Spit makes a fantastic lubricant, so what ever you do, don’t swallow the excess fluid that your producing while blowing him.  If your mouth starts to get dry, push a little deeper until you gag a bit.  Not only will he like this (at least M does), but your gag reflex will make you produce more saliva, giving you more spit and lube, because there isn’t such a thing as too sloppy.  If this isn’t working and you continue to end up with cotton mouth, grab a flavored lube and spread it around.  I wish I had something to recommend to you here, but I don’t really like to use lube while sucking M’s cock, so I don’t know what would be best.  If anyone does, please leave it in the comment section.  (Thanks!)

It’s Not Just the Dick

A good blow job is so much more than sucking his dick.  It’s playing with him completely.  Turning him on and making him feel great.  Therefore, if you are solely focused on just his cock, you need to expand your territory.

  • His balls are sensitive, so make sure you are watching for his responses with what you are doing, as different men like different things.  Play with his boys in your hand, gently rolling them around.  Lightly tickle the skin of his sack, gently massaging his balls through the skin.  Take one ball in your mouth, one at a time, sucking gently, using your tongue while you stroke his cock with your hand (remember to treat them both equally).  Run your tongue up the seam between them.  Play.  See what he likes.
  • His taint, the area between his balls and his ass, is very sensitive.  When you press on it, it will gently massage his prostate.  But be careful here.  Most men like it, but some are not comfortable with it, for one reason or another.  But I’d try it, if I were you.  Because if he’s going to like it, he’s really going to like it.  You can lick it, rub it with your fingers, and press against it.  See what works best for your man.
  • His nipples.  Reach up and play with them while his cock’s in your mouth.  Men’s nipples are often overlooked, but they actually have more nerve endings than women’s.  Figure out what works for him.  M loves to have his nipples played with, pinched, twisted, lightly pulled, sucked on, but nothing too hard (me on the other hand…  but that’s for a different post).
  • Tread carefully with this one…  His ass.  Like women’s, a man’s anus is filled with nerve endings and can be very sensitive and pleasurable.  But like women, not every man will enjoy this.  I’d suggest you discuss this with him before you go there.  But if he is receptive to the idea, this can bring him a lot of pleasure.  You can lightly press against it, rubbing his anus.  You can lick it, as the area close to the anus is very sensitive.  But again, proceed with caution.

Love It

One of the most important aspects of a good blow job is that you enjoy it.  Make sure that you let your man know that you enjoy sucking his cock, that it turns you on.  Make eye contact with him, pull his cock out of your mouth and smile at him.  Tell him how much you love to suck his dick.  Tell him how big and hard he is.  While sucking on him, moan with him deep in your mouth.  Touch yourself.  Tell him how wet you are.  You get the picture.  Enjoy it and he’ll enjoy it more.

Finishing Him Off

Make sure you talk to him about cumming in your mouth or not before you get there.  Some guys become offended if you don’t swallow their cum (but if you don’t want to, it’s okay not to do it, just make sure to explain to him that it’s not personal).  Others may want to cum on your tongue, face, or tits.  But talk about it before the event happens.  M rarely likes to cum in my mouth.  He likes me to blow him, then he’ll fuck the shit out of me before he cums.  If he does cum in your mouth, I like to make sure that I brace my hand between my lips and M’s body, so that I can control how deep he gets; I gag if he shoots his load at the back of my throat.  Once he cums, keep him  in your mouth for just a little bit while he goes soft.  Don’t move around too much, as his cock will be very sensitive.

Final Thoughts

Practice, as once you get good at sucking cock, you will come to love it.  Follow his lead, watching what turns him on.  Ask him what feels good.  Do one thing and then another and ask which one he likes better.  Ask if there is a certain way he likes touched or licked or kissed.  Change your tempo and squeeze.  And you can be much more rough, especially with your grip, then you’d originally think.  Watch how he handles himself and you’ll notice that he is much rougher on his cock than your are.  And finally, relax and enjoy it!