Tag Archives: Dominance and submission

What Is a Dominant’s Duty?

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I hate to admit it, but I’m afraid.

See, a few weeks back, Sir and I were having a random conversation about spanking, whipping, and caning, in which He said something along the lines of, “I’m so going to make you safe word.” (Daddy so does not say say the word “so”). Continue Reading

Trust: The One Thing a Woman Needs to Be Submissive

It’s not kink.

It’s not a man with an Alpha gene.

It’s trust. Pure and simple.

A dear friend of mine is struggling in her marriage. Recently separated, but still together, it’s almost painful to watch what they’re doing to each other. Continue Reading

Back End Play

SE-2934-25-3Although I love getting new toys, the plug I received this month from Cal Exotics sat for almost a week without making its way to our bed.

This evening, before dinner, I mentioned to M that I needed to review it tonight. So after homework and showers and goodnight kisses, we finally made it upstairs to our bedroom. And yet there I sat, not moving towards sex or sex toys or passion of any sort. Continue Reading

Primary Love Needs

In the last year, I’ve downsized my book collection by at least 60%. The last time I purged, one of the books in the pitch pile was Mars and Venus in Touch by John Gray (the guy who wrote Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, just in case that wasn’t obvious). I flipped through the book, skimming it for anything I might find interesting, and I stumbled upon what Gray calls “The primary love needs of women and men.” Continue Reading

Making Her: Scene Stealer #20

Here’s a brief piece of erotica for you, dear reader, inspired by this week’s Scene Stealer from Write to Done. You must start your story with their scene, and this week, you had to use the second-person POV. Continue Reading

I Like It When…

I  like it when he trails his fingertips along my collar-bone, feather touches, light and soft. I like it when he runs them down my sides, across my ribs. And when the backs of his fingers scraping against the hollow between my breasts, I arch into His touch. Continue Reading

Struggles with Submission

It seems to me I’ve read a lot about struggling with your submission. Seems rather common.

And there are all sorts of things submissives struggle with. Always feeling like you could do better, that you are not submissive enough. Turning into a brat when things don’t go your way or you want to act out *one of the most common things you’ll find*. Becoming frustrated with things are not going the way you want to, or moving fast enough for you. Trusting in your Dominant. Giving in. The list goes on and on. Continue Reading

30 Days of Submission: Day 2

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If you missed Day 1, I’m participating in a 30 Days of Submission meme that I found over at LunaKM’s. So without further ado, let’s get on with the show.

Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship? Continue Reading

30 Days of Submission: Day 1

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I’ve had these writing prompts floating around in my drafts for over a year. I came across them at Submissive Guide, which I’d recommend to anyone interested in D/s, both novices and those with more experience. LunaKM wrote a great explanation of how to use these prompts to grow and understand your own submission even more. So, without further ado, here we go. Continue Reading

Thoughts on Power Exchange

*Disclaimer: This post may piss a few of you off. That’s not my intent. This is meant to be more of a “these are my thoughts, what are your thoughts.” So if this pisses you off, please tell me what your thoughts on the matter are. I seek to understand…* Continue Reading


So I need to give a shout out to Lily, you may know her from The Black Leather Belt. If you don’t know her, go check her out now. No, I mean right now. Seriously, go. I’ll wait.

She rocks, right?dicipline Continue Reading

I Want to be Beat

Last spring, in what was a different WordPress world, at least for me, I got chastised for commenting something like “A Daddy Dom will beat the shit out of you, then comfort you in his arms as you cry.” I apparently offended a fellow blogger with my language and I, of course the ever civil LSAM, publicly apologized, modified my lexicon and explained my meaning. Continue Reading

Daddy’s toy

Most of you probably know that in my dynamic, M is the Sir (often times “Sir Daddy”) and I am the toy. And yes, these are our pet names for one another, but to me, as the toy, the word runs deep. When he calls me by it, I melt. Truly. I swear to the gods it probably lowers my blood pressure and wets my panties when the word leaves his lips. Continue Reading

Rules and Obligations: Part 2 or What My Sir Does For Me


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Miss Jayne Ayres commented on my last post, which detailed some of the rules of my submission, asking what M’s obligations are to me and what rules He upholds in our dynamic. I must admit, the question had me intrigued, as I’d never truly thought about it. Continue Reading

Rules and Obligations

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As many of you may know, over the past four to five months, M has become my Sir. And while I’ve shared many of the ups and downs of us embracing our dynamic, as well as some of the fantastic sex, I haven’t really touched on any of the behind the scene things. Continue Reading