Kink of the Week: Prostate Play

It just so happened, through a random series of events, that I ended up with a fantastic guest post that happens to be right on topic with Jade‘s Kink of the Week. How damn lucky am I!

I’ve talked before of prostate play, and I still try to encourage M to let me play that way. We haven’t made must progress, but every once in awhile he’ll at least think about a suggestion…

But a self-proclaimed lurker, who says he would like to remain that way, was gracious enough to share his own experience with prostate play with my readers here at LSAM.

So without further ado… I introduce you to Michael and his guest post…

Prostate Pleasure – One Man’s Journey

Late last year I decided to start massaging my prostate. I had previously read many great things about the practice, but never felt it was something I’d like. My previous rectal exams were about as fun as a root canal, so I never considered prostate massage as something that worked for me. That was until I read prostate stimulation felt better when one was aroused, and I definitely wasn’t aroused during a rectal exam. I became intrigued, and a few weeks later I bought an Aneros Helix Syn prostate massager.

Slipping a prostate massager in my anus was a little uncomfortable, but not overly so. With lube, it felt cold, and foreign. After a few minutes of having it inserted, the foreign-object feeling went away, and I was able to relax and enjoy the prostate massage. Over the last couple of months, I’ve done this dozens of times, and the results have been amazing. I’ve experienced pleasure that I’ve never felt before, and it has me more excited about my sexuality than anything I’ve tried in the last 20 years. I’ve learned things about my body that I didn’t know I had to learn. Most importantly, my sex life has improved dramatically; I’m lasting longer in bed and my orgasms are way better.

One of the very first things I realized after starting to massage my prostate was that there was another place in my body that could provide pleasure. Up to this point, the only place I thought pleasure came from was my penis. But when the prostate starts to feel good, it feels just like pleasure in my penis, only, it’s deeper inside my body, and, dare I say, more intense. It was only at this moment I realized that during orgasm, when my entire nether regions are on fire, I’m having both penile pleasure and prostate pleasure at the same time, only I didn’t realize it. And during my best orgasms, my prostate was contributing more than normal. I thought all the pleasure came from the head of my penis and filtered throughout my body, but I was wrong; my penis wasn’t acting alone.

Once I started massaging my prostate, it was like a fire was lit throughout my body. Suddenly, I was feeling sensations that I hadn’t felt before, and at all times of the day. Sitting, driving, even sleeping. Even when I wasn’t massaging my prostate, it was tingling and giving off subtle waves of pleasure; my brain was literally re-wiring itself to feel new sensations and the learning process was extremely enjoyable.

Since I’ve started massaging the prostate, I’ve experienced many different kinds of pleasure.

Pleasure On “The Edge” – When I work my prostate, I often times reach a level of pleasure that would previously send me straight to orgasm. During typical sexual arousal, I’d reach that plateau and the orgasm would come moments later. But with my prostate, things don’t go so fast. The prostate is slow and subtle, and pleasure builds at its own pace. When the pleasure gets intense, it just stays there, and holds. I’ve spent hours at this plateau in individual sessions, which is probably more time than I’ve spent on it my entire life. When it first started happening, I was frustrated becuase I wanted to reach orgasm, but couldn’t get there. But once I realized that I could just sit back and enjoy “the edge”, it has become a feeling that I look forward to immensely. Just basking in orgasmic level intensity for hours on end is amazing, even if I never reach orgasm. In fact, it’s addictive. And it’s far better than edging during masturbation because I don’t have to expend any energy to try to keep from coming. I just relax and enjoy the show.

Dry Orgasms – After being on the edge for enough time, I often launch into a series of dry orgasms. Dry orgasms are something that I have not experienced since I was a child, pre-puberty. During those days, I could masturbate over and over without any refractory period at all. Ejaculation ruined all of that (who’s idea was THAT?)! But when I let my prostate pleasure build, and leave my penis completely alone, the pleasure will spill into my penis and then I will start having dry orgasms. These orgasms are extremely intense, although they don’t quite have the same feeling of completion and euphoria associated with ejaculatory orgasms; when the orgasm fades out I immediately want another. But no matter, as they are so intense and I can usually keep them going on for as long as I can concentrate. They come one after another, thirty seconds apart. And they can last one to two minutes each! I could never have imagined an orgasm lasting longer than ten to fifteen seconds, and yet, dry orgasms blow ejaculatory orgasms out of the water on the stop watch. Last month, I had a series of dry orgasms that went on for over an hour. For fun, I tried to count them, and I think I got close to forty. Speechless, is all I can say.

The typical recommendation to achieve dry orgasms is to use your PC muscles to hold the semen in. I tried this, and it caused pain. It wasn’t for me. Achieving dry orgasms via prostate massage seems safter, in my case, and certainly is more comfortable.

Dry orgasms felt “weird” when I first started having them; it is extremely strange to have an orgasm and not feel semen shooting through my penis. The feeling of the semen going through my shaft is incredibly pleasurable, and it was missing. It is only at this time that I realized how my prostate contributes to my orgasm, and how the feeling of pleasure as the semen went through my shaft was coming from the prostate itself. But again, the dry orgasm is nevertheless extremely intense; the tip of my penis is usually burning in pleasure. The only way I can describe it would be to use a vibrator to bring yourself to orgasm, and then hold the vibrator right on the tip of your penis after the orgasm; if the vibrator brings on way too much intensity that you have to pull it off, that’s kind of how the dry orgasms feel. They get close to too much intensity, and happen over and over. Strangely enough, when I have dry orgasms, my penis is not usally erect at all. But it feels so hard that it feels like it is going to explode, and yet, it is typically soft as butter during the dry orgasms. During dry orgasms, pre-cum drips from the tip of my penis for as long as the orgasms continue.

Prostate Orgasms – I haven’t had these too many times, but when I have them, they are equisite. The prostate orgasms start deeper in the body behind my testicles, build slower, last longer, and radiate outward throughout my entire body. I often times get light headed and feel like I am floating when the prostate orgasms start. Sometimes it feels like the air is being sucked out of my chest. When the prostate orgasm grows, I lose all sense of time and place, and, just, experience it. They are extremely intense and satisfying, and last thirty seconds or more. They are more euphoric and satisfying than the dry orgasms. Fortunately, like the dry orgasms, these come in waves. I once had them continue on for thirty minutes. Like dry orgasms, pre-cum drips from my penis as the orgasms happen, yet despite being from the prostate, no semen is ejaculated.

Anal Orgasms – I’ve had a few of these, and they are extremely pleasurable. The pleasure builds slowly and intensely right in front of my anus, on the perineum, about an inch or so from the opening. Again, one of the things I love best about these orgasms is that it is yet another place that my body can give me pleasure that I was unaware of. Who knew? I don’t know if these orgasms come just from prostate massage or from the Aneros massager I use that massages my sphincter at the same time as my prostate, but they are different and fullfilling. One thing is for sure, I now know that anal orgasms can happen, and a vibrator for my anus is on the short list of upcoming purchases.

Full Body Orgasm – I experienced a full body orgasm once, briefly, and this one will be the hardest for me to describe. When it starts, it feels a lot like a prostate orgasm in that I feel euphoric over my whole body, with a light headed, airy, floating sensation. And then the orgasm starts, not in my penis, not in my prostate, not in my anus, but in my CHEST. Seriously, in my CHEST. I would not have believed it if I did not experience it. I got the same orgasmic sensation in my penis, and it stayed in my chest for about thirty seconds before I literally sat up in shock. Were I not so surprised, it might have continued. I haven’t been able to recreate this, but I know my prostate caused it and it’s only a matter of time before I figure out how to do this again. If I can have an orgasmic feeling in my chest, then I know I can have them anywhere. It certainly is something to look forward to, and it’s a skill that I’m eager to acquire.

Super-O – The Super-O is the fabled orgasm that everybody on the Aneros forums is searching for. The description of this orgasm is full body, intense, and far beyond what a typical orgasm offers. It is described differently by everyone, but the closest I’ve heard it described is a cross between a Full Body Orgasm and a Prostate Orgasm, or, “you’ll know it when you get it”. It’s the pinnacle of the Aneros experience, and a sign of what a prostate can do. I haven’t had this yet, but I am eager to find it. Experienced users describe being able to get these kinds of orgasms regularly. Other users find it hard to accomplish. One thing is for sure, the prostate has unlimited boundaries of pleasure.

Traditional Orgasms – My traditional orgasms have changed since massaging my prostate. I’m getting erections quicker than I have in years, and they are stronger, too. I’m also getting more pleasure throughout the arousal process. Before massaging my prostate, I would go from little arousal to peak arousal during sex, with little in between. Since massaging my prostate, however, I’m getting fairly intense pleasure from the very beginning, with it building throughout arousal all the way until orgasm. The best part is that I’m also lasting longer; the pleasure builds, but I’m able to build it higher than before, which takes longer. On top of that, my orgasms are more intense and fuller than before. I attribute this to my prostate contributing more. I believe this comes from the fact that I’m able to channel some of my arousal directly to my prostate, which I’ve only been able to do since learning where to channel the sensations. Overall, this has made sex far more enjoyable to me!

I think it is important to point out that my results haven’t been conistent. I’ve found the prostate to be a tricky date; one day something works, and the next day it doesn’t. It takes time for the body to start activating new pathways of pleasure, and the process isn’t always consistent. But each attempt at prostate massage has been enjoyable, and I’ve been able to get more in touch with my body than ever before. Learning to appreciate subtle sensations is a new experience for me, and I think every man should try it, at least once.

I’d also like to point out that my best success has come with my Aneros prostate massager. I chose the Aneros because of the enthusiastic response it gets online, and because it is “self guiding” (e.g. hands off). I just put it in and relax. I have yet to have much success with my wife massaging me, however. Part of that is due to the fact that it takes me a long time to build prostate arousal (sometimes an hour or more). But that doesn’t mean I won’t get there at some point. In fact, I’m sure I will. It’s just a matter of her learning how to do it and me being in the right mindset to receive it. For now, my journey has been more personal, and she and I are both okay with it. It has taken time for me to understand how my body works, and appreciate the new ways my body responds. But I look forward to the point when she can do this for me every time we have sex.

Lastly, I’d like to talk about Female Orgasms. My wife can have multiple orgasms. She can have orgasms that last 30 seconds or more. And she can keep on going right afterwards. As a man, I love helping her achieve this level of pleasure and it’s amazing to watch, but, like most men, I’ve always been somewhat envious. But that ends, today. Since massaging my prostate, I’ve had dry orgasms and prostate orgasms come one after another while staying at peak pleasure the entire time. I’ve had a full body orgasm, p-spot orgasms, anal orgasms, I’ve had light-headedness, floating sensations, and I think I could have come close to passing out once. I’m finally undertanding my wife’s sexual response, and it’s fantastic. I feel closer to her. I feel closer to myself.

48 responses to “Kink of the Week: Prostate Play

  1. Very interesting post… Wow multiples for a man… amazing… Very courageous coming out and talking about it..
    LK

    • I’ve read “A Multi-Orgasmic Man” a few years back. I think I’m going to have to pull it out again, and reread it with M. I’d love to be able to make him cum like me makes me cum, yunno. *sigh* Perhaps someday. *hugs and kisses*

    • Multiple orgasms were what I was searching for the most. I have had them described to me, but it’s really hard to imagine, and I was ecstatic at achieving this goal. I was surprised at how after the completion of one orgasm, I was still horny for more. Now it makes sense why many women want their partners to go longer and aren’t satisfied after a single orgasm. After one orgasm dies down, I stay at the edge, and the “need” to go back over the edge is just as strong as it was before the last orgasm. Compare this to an extremely strong ejaculatory orgasm, which has the same orgasm feeling but also includes an immense feeling of euphoria and satisfaction and “I’m done” with it. I know women get this type of orgasm, too. And to be honest, both are great, but I like the euphoria feeling to end a session a bit better. When the multiples keep going, they just keep going, and eventually die down and get softer and softer until they don’t come back. The urge to have more is gone, but the euphoric sensation isn’t there either. It really is interesting to experience different types of orgasms. And don’t get me started on 1+ minute orgasms. It’s unbelievable that such pleasure could go on for that long; I only realize now that ejaculation short circuits the whole thing and that if you remove it from the picture, the orgasm has no bounds.

  2. I’m grinning from ear to ear, but not sure that you’ll be grinning too, if I “say” what’s on my mind. (smirk!) Oh hell, here goes, and please don’t be offended, because that is sincerely not what is intended by my comment.

    I’m glad that the guy wrote one “Lastly” paragraph about female orgasms, and I’m not surprised that his last line of his one “Lastly” paragraph about female orgasms was “I feel closer to myself.” because I believe him! LOL 😀

    Prostate orgasms??? I was doing that to myself while jerking off back when I was 14 years old, after finding and reading an old paperback copy of “Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex* – But Were Afraid to Ask” by Dr. David Reuben.

    Hey, like they say… “The Truth is Out There!”

    Or maybe in this case, The Truth is IN There! And when some guys go IN There, they may never come back out again! LOL 😀

    • First off Mark, you can “say” whatever you’d like (except politics… I’ve got a rule about political shit), and I would love to hear it!
      And isn’t it lovely, that as children, we do what feels good, simply because it feels good, without concerns of what others tell is “should” feel good.
      So glad to see you back around! *hugs and kisses*

      • TY for your gracious and patient reply. I was half expecting a verbal kick in the head, and if that’s what you had given me, I would have apologized without feeling like I didn’t deserve your verbal kick in the head. Some people are not sure how to take my sense of humor, so I’m always glad when I find someone who does.

        Agreed on your opinion of how as children, we do what feels good w/o concern for what others (who are often misguided and sexually repressed) tell us should and should NOT feel good.

        TY for being glad to see me back around, and likewise! 🙂

  3. I am glad when men can be open to doing things that most consider taboo… Pleasure is pleasure no matter what part of the body it comes form. 🙂
    Great post girl.
    xox

  4. Thank you for posting. Going to show this to my Daddy…. Nothing I’d like better than to be able to help him get even more pleasure.

  5. This whole piece is amazing. The way you talk about your discoveries and how they have made you feel about your body is awesome and for me is so perfectly summed up in the beautiful last few words “I feel closer to her. I feel closer to myself.” How perfect is that

    Mollyxxx

  6. my current wife introduced me to anal sex, and my g-spot, which made exploring easier. When a guy ask his girl to give him anal, it may freak her out. We started slow with one finger two…then to a “classix prostate stimulator” from any adult store. For a simple one piece plastic toy, it sure hit the right spot on the prostate. She literally milked me with it. “Michaels” descriptions of male orgasms are spot on.
    We slowly progressed to pegging which is beyond description. We tried different sizes and shapes for dildos and settled on one we both like. Pegging is her gift to you. She told me to relax and just let it happen. Let go all all the walls and social phobias. So, I did. She doesn’t orgasm from it but she enjoys watching me in total extacy.

    • Thank you Bob, for your experience. I would LOVE to eventually get to the point of pegging. It’s actually become somewhat of a joke between M and I, because I’m always hinting. But, alas, we are not yet there. *hugs and kisses*

  7. I’m fascinated and very intrigued. We’ve been playing with external perineum massage but not internal prostate massage. Thank you, Michael, for sharing your experiences, it was very informative and candid. We’re in a major experimentation phase and have turned up the heat considerably. I will share this with my hubs.

    • Here’s to wishing you the best with your hubby, elle! M, too, will let me play externally, but alas, that is all. Mwah!!

      • I found some great information about prostate health and massage. They say milking the prostate through massage helps with keeping the prostate healthy because clogs can happen and lead to problems. There also seems to be a correlation between keeping the prostate unclogged, which helps signals the pituitary to produce testosterone. I’d like to get more info on that. Men need to take these things into consideration to stay healthy as they age.

      • Prostate health was one of the reasons I first looked into prostate play. I suffer from CPPS, and massaging my prostate and the muscles around it helps it feel better. Since beginning prostate massage, my CPPS has never been better; I feel like I have a personal masseuse working out the kinks in my pelvic floor.

  8. Thanks for sharing your experience with this. I always like to hear others views on it so I can pass them on to my members who are into it but do not know much about it.

  9. One thing worth mentioning is that men with erectile dysfunction and other PIV issues can still enjoy prostate orgasms and dry orgasms. Men older than 80 are doing prostate massage and enjoying it long after they are able to have an erection. It should definitely be an option for men who have dead bedroom’s and are looking for something to help them enjoy sexual activity again.

    And for men that are a little shy about pegging and letting their partner give them a massage, they can use their own massager privately to get used to the sensations and work up to partner play.

  10. NIPPLE SENSITIVITY – I didn’t mention this in my post, but increased nipple sensitivity has been another side effect of prostate massage. Whereas previously my nipples were like dead fish on my chest, now when I rub them, the sensation goes directly to my prostate and gives me pleasure there. This took a week or two to develop, but it’s amazing. My nipples came alive with prostate massage and it’s one more thing I’m thankful for!

  11. That was a lot of fun:-)

    Sadly, I never found that these devices did much for me:-( I was never able to recreate the feelings that were claimed for it of ‘shooting your spine’ on orgasm. Probably doin’ me wrong.

    There was an interesting post a while back about this topic, with something of a medical slant, too, on Woman’s blog: http://theworldaccordingtowoman.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/gentlemen-let-a-woman-meet-your-rear/
    She is very keen on prostate massage! Yes, ok, amongst other things sexual:-) Maybe this will help ease M into trying it, it into him, whatever?

    If you do try this, a condom over the massager will reduce the ‘eww’ factor for all persons involved. As will medical rubber gloves and short finger nails if you need or prefer to start without a toy;-) If you insist on keeping the nails, add cotton wool pads on the fingers. Or so I’m told…

  12. Fabulous post!! Thank you for your candid sharing of this subject. Myself and my lovely man often play with his prostate to great effect – it certain is fun experimenting with different techniques as well!!

    ~Mia~ xx

  13. Wow! What a FABULOUS post! I had no idea if I would get any responses to this week’s KOTW from those that experience it, but I was hoping – and this post delivers! Thank you SO much for sharing your experience Michael, and for joining in on the KOTW. 🙂

  14. Great post. I found the multiple peaks and all over orgasms too; it really is like “Orgasm-Plus” 😉

    And I love experimenting: sure some things aren’t great, but others are fantastic!

  15. One of the things I want to try… Thanks to Michael for the great descriptions, and to Caitlyn for posting it. It was a very informative read.

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  17. This is such a great read! Could be life-changing for some!

  18. Wonderful post! 🙂

  19. yetithebandito

    This is the most accurate description of what happens that you can find on the net.
    The nipple thing was new to me but it is actually true too.
    After I first read about the p-spot I started to explore the issue. I bought the fun factory “duke” which is supposed to be specifically built for the prostate. While it was pleasurable and enhancing the normal orgasm it didnt do more so I only used it once in a while.
    Reading about milking and forced ejaculation rekindled my interest. You can get all of the juice out of a guy without him having any orgasm.
    As the duke wasn’t working for me I started to look at other toys, aneros, nexus, other fun factory stuff. Looking at them on the net at work one day the idea of using them turned me on so hard that I went straight to a shop after work.
    While many toys were pleasurable my personal winner is the fun factory boosty. I plugged it in and it immediatly put pressure on my prostate. Since its a plug I just lay down to feel it. After some time my nether regions start to move on their own. The prostate slowly got more sensitive and started moving too. After about 45 minutes I had my first dry-orgasm rocking my body.
    If I hadnt read about the topic I would have stopped there or started to work on my cock. But since I had I just left it where it was. And as many have described you keep on getting dry-orgasms that get more intense each time. Sometimes it felt like having a seizure the whole body shaking with pleasure. I stopped after 2 hrs as my sphincter started to hurt and it was getting harder to get enough air since your breathing stops during orgasm.
    The pleasurable tingly feeling stayed for a whole day.
    Now that Im hooked up Id like to try some pegging.
    As to the topic of convincing men to let you play with their ass I suggest you play with his anus while you blow him and after some time you just slip your finger in. Once your past the sphincter it wont hurt and it starts to relax making the unpleasunt feeling to away. Touch his prostate and he will want you to go on.
    Or you could get into the bathtub together that should make him relaxed enough to let you slip in.
    And while its very pleasurable dont overdo it I recently pulled a muscle during one of my orgasmic spasms 😉

    • Hi Yeti, and huge apologies for taking 2 damn months to respond! We are very, very slowly working at it. Even though M’s not keen on the idea, he’s thinking and that’s a bonus. I’ve got to do more research on it, show him all the perks!

      Thanks for the lovely comment! *hugs and kisses*

  20. Quote “I chose the Aneros because of the enthusiastic response it gets online, and because it is “self guiding” (e.g. hands off). I just put it in and relax. I have yet to have much success with my wife massaging me, however.”
    How are you using the Aneros Micheal and which one did you get? While reading the post I assumed this was a battery operated device but I looked it up and it looks like it does not vibrate. Someone else also mentioned the Fun Factory Boosty and the “Woman Blog” spoke of the Aneros MGX which neither of them seem to vibrate.
    I have been researching prostate massaging and am looking forward to the benefits, but like everything else here I want to go ahead and buy the best instead of winding up with a drawer full of unused devices. Thanks for posting as I know this is not a favorite topic for most men.

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