Is Oral Sex, Sex?

Drawing by Francesco Hayez. Español: Dibujo de...

Drawing by Francesco Hayez. Español: Dibujo de Francesco Hayez. 한국어: 남녀가 커닐링구스 또는 구강성교를 구사하고 있다. 프란체스코 아예스의 그림. Nederlands: Facesitting. Polski: Francesco Hayez, rysunek. Русский: Картина Франческо Хайеса. తెలుగు: Cunnilingus, or oral sex performed on a woman. Drawing by Francesco Hayez. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Okay, so I’m not going to sit here and pretend that I’ve been broading over this, because I haven’t.  What I have been doing is proofreading and writing and reading and all sorts of stuff and now, I’m procrastinating.  I’m really good at it.  A pro, truly.  And what better way to procrastinate, then to communicate with you all, my fellow pervs.

Anyway, I stumbled upon this article (bullshit, it was saved in a folder in my email, for situations just like this, when I’ve got shit to do, but don’t want to do it) about teens and what they consider sex.  Apparently, according to these researchers, teens will suck and blow, as well as have anal sex, and still consider themselves virgins.  “Oral sex has become common place,” the author says.

Well, duh!  I am no longer a teen *sigh* and in the 16 years since I was 15, I don’t think a whole lot has changed on this arena.  Oral sex wasn’t that big of a deal to teens back then, and it isn’t that big of deal to them now.  I remember a specific event, when I’d accidentally led a guy on, and felt that I should fuck him, even though I didn’t want to.  So, what did 15 year old LSAM do?  I took him to the locker room and dropped on my knees.  And it’s not necessarily that I didn’t care or I didn’t respect myself…  It’s just easier to suck a cock then to fuck a guy sometimes.

But, that, my dears, is not the point.  The point is what is sex?  According to Google, sexual intercourse is “Sexual contact between individuals involving penetration, esp. the insertion of a man’s erect penis into a woman’s vagina.”  Hmm…  sexual contact involving penetration.  Does that mean finger fucking is sex?  What about playing with toys?  Is it sex if M shoves a dildo in my pussy?  What about in my ass?  What if I’m pegging him?  The questions can, obviously, go on and on.

To me, sex is sex.  It’s not about love or even necessarily intimacy.  I’ve had some really good fucking sex with very little intimacy involved.  It’s about the mutual desire to get off and enjoy each others’ bodies.  It’s about orgasms and cum and falling down, exhausted on to the bed.  To me, there is no difference, no clear-cut difference anyway, between sex and fucking.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are different levels.  Fuck, there are differently levels of everything.  Sex with a complete stranger is going  to be a whole lot different from sex with M.  But sex can and does happen all the time without any of that emotional mumbo-jumbo.  And it can still be just as good.

Fuck, I’m rambling.  Get back on track LSAM (see why I’m procrastinating, I can’t fucking focus)!  Do I consider oral sex, sex?  What about anal?  Yes and yes.  If it’s about getting off (even if it’s about getting someone else off), and it involves some sort of penetration from one person to another, then it is fucking sex.  Get over it.  Hell, one of my dear friends, Gillian at BDP, has a scene in one of her books where there isn’t even penetration, but fuck, it is definitely sex (and I’m too lazy to get up and get my Nook to see which book it was, but I’m thinking it was Breaking Through, but, Gill, babe, correct me if I’m wrong).

As far as girls still thinking they’re virgins because they are only blowing guys and getting fucked in the ass…  Well, virginity is overrated anyway.  Who really gives a flying fuck?  And if she is dumb enough, or perhaps her thinking is distorted enough, that she can honestly say she went to her wedding bed as a virgin, even though 2o guys have shot their load up her ass, well, her husband is going to have a lot more to worry about than a few red dots on the sheets…

*hugs and kisses* y’all, and thanks for listening to me rant…

13 responses to “Is Oral Sex, Sex?

  1. I agree. I think it’s just how teens think too though. The are told that preservation of the hymen makes them virgins so it’s okay to do everything else. Faulty education is at work there. Anyway, am I supposed to say get back to work? Though, if I had to pick a topic to procrastinate on, I’d pick oral sex.

  2. Gillian Colbert

    My stance is was and will be if you’ve been penetrated you aren’t a virgin. Period. As for oral, I consider it sex. But that’s just me personally. That argument can go either way.

    What tripped me out most about this post is the difference 8 years can make. When I was in high school, no one and I mean no one was sucking dick or getting eaten out. Or at least they weren’t admitting to it. Guys thought eating pussy was nasty and no girl admitted to sucking dick.

    Now, I had the same bf throughout high school and yes, I sucked his dick and he went down on me, but damn if I ever told anyone. LOL

    • Haha! And I’m guessing you weren’t alone. At the school where I spent most of my high school career, well, we weren’t “conservative.” Fuck, my bff had lots and lots of partners by the time we graduated (like maybe 50+, although without sitting down with a pen and paper, I could be off by 15 to 20 in either direction). We were doing it, and many weren’t shy about it. When I transfered schools as a Junior, I remember someone telling me that I shouldn’t be friends with “that girl” as she was a whore. I knew for a fact she was a virgin, she just made out with boys at parties… I remember saying, “Damn, you’ve got a lot to learn out here in the sticks!” haha.

  3. Yes, it is. (And is often the most delightful kind.)



  4. In Central Florida, it is common wisdom that “Eatin’ ain’t cheatin’.” But seriously, if you’re touching someone’s genitals, it’s sex, isn’t it? Maybe not “intercourse”, but how can it not be sex?

  5. I’ve always considered sex anything that can get someone knocked up…. so intercourse. And the rest has been in an ambiguous box labeled “fun.” That said, I haven’t thought about the virginity aspect. Probably because I haven’t had to worry about whether or not I’m a virgin in pretty good while. ; )

  6. Every point you made is valid…17 years ago when I was 15, I felt the same way, and I’m sure 10 or so years when my boys are about that age, they’ll feel the same way…but out of everything stated here, my favorite line (that applied when I was 15 and still applies today – and isn’t even the point of the whole post) is “It’s just easier to suck a cock then to fuck a guy sometimes.” 🙂

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