Last week, I was writing an article on blow jobs for a millennial women’s website. I think I know a thing or two about sucking cock (I wrote about it here and here), but, alas, I am dick-less and have never been on the receiving end of a blowjob.  But I have a whole lot of Facebook friends who have been, so I decided to throw it out to the masses to see what they had to say.

And they had plenty.

While I’m not going to share every detail of the conversations, here are some of the highlights.

What Makes a Blowjob Bad?

Without a doubt, the number one consensus on bad blow jobs is teeth. And the way they talk about it, if you’re protecting his package from your teeth, you’re at least giving decent head. Now, I don’t necessarily believe the “any pizza is good pizza” mentality when it comes to oral sex (maybe because I’m a woman and perhaps it’s a little more complicated for us), but man after man said the same thing.

Almost every guy who commented on what makes a blowjob bad mentioned teeth so if you ladies are out there still thinking that he likes it that way, he doesn’t. And on the off chance he does, he’ll let you know. Otherwise, just let it go and assume that he wants your lips wrapped around his dick and your teeth.

What Makes a Blowjob Great?

While there were lots of ideas on great blowjobs, two were mentioned way more than any others. Men want to see more mouth and more eye contact.

More Mouth

In general, guys recommend “more mouth, less hand.” This made me ponder. I always recommended women using a helping hand while giving head, especially for those ladies who have difficulty taking more than a few inches in their mouths. It also helps keep you from gagging and gives you a rest when you need to regroup.

Yet, as I was sucking M’s cock last night, I attempted to apply the more mouth, less hand philosophy. And I had pleasing results. While my hands were still involved, holding his cock, rubbing his balls, stroking him, I made sure they played more of a backseat role than a starring one. Instead of using my hand to apply pressure to the up and down strokes, I made more of an effort to massage the length of him with my cheeks and tongue. This created a snug tunnel with my mouth, instead of just the open vat my mouth often makes. And while I can’t necessarily say that I observed him feeling better than before, he definitely wasn’t complaining.

Make the take away this… While it’s fine to use your hands during a blowjob, remember what you’re there to do, and it’s not to give him a hand job. Make your mouth the focal point, and use your hands as props. And don’t forget, just about everything you can do with your hand, you can do with your mouth and tongue, including swirls, twists, and playing with his balls.

More Eye Contact

When it comes to eye contact, a Facebook friend brought up a good point; remember that men, in general, are visually aroused. They don’t just want to feel your wet mouth on their cock, they want to see it, too. That means don’t just stick their dick as far back in your throat as you can, it means to drop down on it and slowly pull back off of it. Let him see the length of it slide between your lips. Let me see your split glistening off his skin. Allow him to watch your tongue glide across his head before it pushes between your lips. And then let him see you watching him watch. By making eye contact,  you’re engaging with him on an intimate level, letting him see how much you adore him and his cock. Because you do adore him and his cock, right?

What Makes a Blowjob the Best One You’ve Ever Had?

If you want to know what makes a blowjob stand out above the rest, my facebook fellas were willing to answer that too. And the number one thing a woman can do is enjoy it. Want to suck his cock. Love it. Be passionate about it. Lose yourself in it. Get off on getting him off. Again, adore him and his cock.

And if he sees that you’re getting off on sucking his cock, it won’t matter how much you use your hands, or how long you keep your eyes locked on his, or even if your teeth scrape just a little bit, he’ll still love it. And when it’s authentic and real and you love sucking his dick with abandon and it makes you go crazy with lust, you’ll go down as one of the best blowjobs he’s ever had.

A Few More Blowjob Hints and Tips

And here’s a few final hints from the guys who took the time to help a writer out.

  • Use lots of spit
  • Be Spontaneous
  • Twirl Your Tongue
  • Play with his balls
  • Learn to keep pace
  • Be noisy

Have some great blowjob advice? Comment below!

*hugs and kisses*

~caitlyn

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