Hello dear readers. Just a quick link today. I’ve got company. I love Cracked.com and this article is awesome. It’s interesting, the things we do and the impact they have without us even knowing. This is a prime example: 6 things men do to get laid that science says turns women off.
Does size really matter?
We have all heard the clichés: It’s not the size of the ship, it’s the motion of the ocean. My mother always likes to respond with “I’d rather sail to Europe on a yacht than a row-boat.” But really, for both men and women, does size really make that much of a difference?
It happens. You’re really excited. It feels really good. She’s moving and moaning. And suddenly, you can’t hold back anymore. Damn. She didn’t even cum yet. She says it’s okay, but you know it’s not. Now you feel like a douche. But wait, this doesn’t have to happen again. There are some quick, easy tricks to use to help you last longer.
The last few posts have been kind of raunchy, so tonight I’m going a different direction and talking about date night. It’s an important aspect to any LTR, and keeps us in touch with one another. M and I don’t do it as often as we should (I’m recommending at least once a month), but when we do, it’s always a blast. So, call a babysitter, pull out your little black dress, and head out on the town… or to your favorite picnic spot… or to your favorite hotel.
If you do this stop. It’s not nice. In a relationship, I don’t believe that you should ever use sex as a weapon or for leverage (unless you are in a D/s relationship and it’s wrapped up into your life, but that’s a different post for a different day). Don’t withhold sex because your mad at your man because he didn’t take out the trash. Not only is it bed for your relationship; it’s a bitch move.
I think quickies tend to get a bad rep, especially in long-term relationships. Afterall, nobody fantasizes about a guy that can last three minutes, or
an escapade that you can do between commercials of a UFC fight, but in reality, it allows those of us who are no longer dating (and not specifically setting apart large chunks of time for one another) to make sure that we are still getting laid regularly.
We all fantasize. Some of us a lot, some of us a little. Sometimes it’s about our partners, sometimes it’s about our co-workers, or movie stars, or firemen, or strippers, or a room full of clowns dressed in tutus. Maybe you think about a really hot sex session from the past, or what you are going to do to your wife when you get home from work. Maybe you imagine getting fucked by multiple men at once or being tied to a bed or being beaten in public. Hell, sometimes I have had fantasies that I don’t even like, things I would never have thought would turn me on and things that I definitely don’t want to do in my real life. Often times we may not understand them, sometimes they embarrass us, most of the time they make us cum.
How often should you have sex? As often as you want! But I’d say at least twice a week, at minimum. As I mentioned in How To Want More Sex, the more sex you have, the more that you will want. If you have sex less than once a week, you will begin having it less and less. This has happened in my own relationship a few times and one day I woke up and couldn’t remember the last time M and I did it (and I don’t want to ever be in that position again). I decided right then I needed to do something about it, even if I really was not motivated to do so. So, I initiated sex that night, and the next, and the next. Within a week or so, we were right back to it often enough to keep us both satisfied.
A sex slump. It happens. We’ve all been there at one point or another. Life gets in the way; you’re busy at work, the kids are sick, and when it comes down to it, you’re tired and stressed and sex becomes the last thing on your mind (which is ironic, considering a strong, fulfilling sex life can release stress and make you sleep better). And when we push sex back due to the pressures of everyday life, we tend to push it back again and again. Then one day, you can’t tell the last time you got off or laid naked next to your husband. That’s the thing about sex, the less you have, the less you want. Break the cycle.