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Rules and Obligations

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As many of you may know, over the past four to five months, M has become my Sir. And while I’ve shared many of the ups and downs of us embracing our dynamic, as well as some of the fantastic sex, I haven’t really touched on any of the behind the scene things. Continue Reading

The Desire to Please

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So…  There is so much I would like to say that I can’t seem to verbalize.  I have feelings of elation and love, yet heartache, but I sit here with my fingers on the keyboard and they refuse to move.  So… I’m going to do what I do best, and turn it straight to sex… Continue Reading

Sub-Space in Relation to Drug Use…

So, keep in mind as you read this, that I have no idea how true any of it is.  I am very educated in drug use and addiction (from textbooks, professional trainings, and straws and mirrors), so that stuff is all legit, but the other, well, someday soon I’ll research it, but just don’t have the time tonight and this was on my mind.  Deal with it.  Or don’t. Continue Reading

From Psychology Today: A Loving Introduction to BDSM

Good morning, ya’ll, and Happy Father’s Day to all you dad’s out there.  I came across this article in Psychology Today, and thought I’d pass it on.  It’s nothing new, to those of you that practice or have researched BDSM, but it’s just nice to know that there is some real information being put out there by professionals that don’t make us out to be sick little perverts…  Opps… wait a sec…  Maybe we are all litte perverts!  Hehe.  You know what I mean.  *hugs and kisses* everyone.  Enjoy your day!~LSAM Continue Reading

Unexpected Benefits of a D/s Relationship

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Over the weekend, I was doing some back reading, still catching up on blog posts that I haven’t had time to get to.  I was over at Leather Cuffs and Silken Bonds and reading this post by Jake, and it got me thinking.  I’ve talked about this briefly, here and there, since the big blow out with M occurred over six weeks ago, but I don’t think I’ve really discussed it in detail, or really explained what I meant by it. Continue Reading

A BDSM Blacklist

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Basic monochrome version of BDSM triadic symbol. Somewhat similar to Quagmyr’s BDSM Emblem (but different enough to be free from the copyright restrictions which Quagmyr claims on certain specified versions of the Triskelion symbol). Of course, the Triskelion ultimately comes from the description of the Roissy triskelion ring in the “Histoire d’O” by Pauline Réage (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Just a quick link for anyone who is a member of Fetlife, or anything similar, or interested in kink social sites in general.  This was the headline on my morning Salon.com newsfeed.  I figured I’d pass it on.  I hate coming across things like this, perpetrators using BDSM as a front, because, as you all know, BDSM requires trust, communication, and respect.  Without these, we are all in a mess of trouble.  And fuck, it the vanilla world, so many of them already think we are all just abusers and victims.  This sort of shit does not help. Continue Reading

Sometimes I’m a Brat

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I don’t really want to be, but sometimes it just comes out of me.  Being new to the whole BDSM thing, especially as a mainstay in our lifestyle, is pretty damn interesting, to say the least. And the first month has been fucking fantastic.  But damn.  Sometimes this shit just pours out of my mouth, well before it hits my brain.  As soon as I hear myself say it, I’m like, “Wtf LSAM!  Are you even thinking?”  And most of the time it’s stupid shit.  Dumb, bratty shit. Continue Reading

Responsibilities of a Submissive (Stolen)

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I’ve stumbled upon this a few times now, and although I have a few posts started, nothing is ready tonight.  And, being since it is Sunday and hence, stealing is allowed, I thought why not pass it on.  From what I could find, the original author is unknown.  The italics are my additional thoughts on the matter, just because I felt like chirping in. Continue Reading

BDSM: Why You’re Getting it All Wrong

BDSM: Why You’re Getting it All Wrong.

An absolutely excellent read. Anyone practicing BDSM, or even interested in it, should check this out. A Firm Grip is one of my favorite blogs I just started following. Continue Reading

Crazy Bitch

Dearest readers…  Sometimes I’m a crazy bitch.  Sometimes I’m dumb as fuck.  That’s how I feel this morning, as I sit here at 5 am with a cup of coffee and an 18th month old by my side.  If you read my last post, you know I fucked up bad.  Most likely, you don’t know the details, as I didn’t share them,  for multiple reasons, but mostly to not make M go through the violation of trust again, having to read it on the dumb fucking computer screen… Continue Reading

Karma’s a Bitch: On Becoming Submissive

Good morning my dear readers…

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As many of you may know, I have been struggling sometime with the power dynamic in my relationship with M (this can be seen in multiple back posts including here and here and here).  I could never find the way to verbalize what I wanted to M, in a way that made me still feel submissive.  After all, if I ask him to pin me down and fuck me, spank me until my ass is candy apple red, or fuck my face like I’m a dirty slut…  well, that’s not very submissive.  That’s not letting him take the reins and steer the relationship to where he wants it to go.  It’s not letting him dominate a fucking thing.  If I would ask for these things, it’s just me, still in control, pretending to be submissive.  Kind of fucks with the whole idea.  It does not set up the dynamic I was seeking, the power exchange between a man and a woman.  A true D/s relationship.  It would all be role play, me topping from the bottom.  idk.  It just wasn’t right. Continue Reading

Follow Up on BDSM Question…

So, the lovely Catherine Bowman recently commented on my BDSM Question post that was written just under a month ago, and as I started to respond, I thought maybe I should just post this…  Looking back, I find it amazing how much one can learn in a month. Continue Reading

BDSM Question

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Okay.  I know LSAM isn’t really a question and answer blog, but I can’t help it.  I’ve got a question, or perhaps need clarification, and you, dear readers and friends, are the only ones I know to ask. Continue Reading

Experimental Submissive Exhibitionist

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The other day I was back reading one of my favorite blogs, and I stumbled upon a quiz, Do You Have an Inclination for BDSM?  And of course I had to take it.  And the results didn’t fly with me.  So I took it again, just now.  And I still don’t know.  And I’m not holding these quizzes to actually mean shit, they just gave me an easy platform to talk about sex, as my creative juices don’t seem to be flowing.  But the over-thinker in me can’t help but wonder what I answered that lead to these conclusions. Continue Reading

Novice Thoughts on BDSM

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Yesterday, M, me and the family all headed to Cabela’s.  We were in the car for almost two hours each way, which gave me the opportunity to catch up on some of my readings (although I really should have worked on my story…  February 28th is just around the corner).  I brought Patricia Payne’s Sex Tips From a Dominatrix, and read just about the whole thing on the trip…  So here we go…  my novice thoughts on BDSM. Continue Reading