Amazingly, I looked around, and there isn’t much real information out there on fisting. And even on sites like youporn and xhamster, many of the videos are either anal fisting (ouch!) or girl-girl scenes. And let me tell you, my fist is not half the size of M’s, so there is no fucking comparison to having a girl fist you and having a full grown 6’4″ man fist you. No comparison.

But anyway, back on track. Perhaps you’ve thought about the idea of being fisted, but don’t know how to even begin. So how do you get from thinking about it, to being filled with it?

With patience, care and perseverance. Because it’s going to hurt like a mother fucker before it feels like heaven. As a matter of fact, my first fisting experience was my first experience with full blown sub-space and the closest I’ve ever been to safewording. Hence, patience and perseverance are two words dear to my heart.

So on with the show. Here is the LSAM guide to fisting…

**disclaimer: This is solely my opinion on what has worked for me. I am simply passing on what I have learned. I am not a professional.**

  • Make sure you’re somewhere you aren’t going to be bothered, as once it’s in, it’s not so easy to get out. You don’t want a random in-law stopping in when you’ve got a whole hand up your pussy. It may make for an awkward conversation.
  • Make sure you’re with someone you trust, because this can become a very dangerous experience if things are pushed too quickly or someone doesn’t stop when you ask them too.
  • Speaking of this, make sure you have a safeword in place. Yes, it’s necessary, although hopefully you won’t need to use it. First time fisting may even be a good time to use “red” and “yellow,” that way you can have him slow down without stopping. Either way, make sure you’ve talked about this before you’re on your back with your knees pulled up to your ears.
  • And just a suggestion. Give him a manicure before you get started. File his nails so the edges are short and smooth. You’ll be thankful later.
  • Play. For awhile. And then play some more before you attempt to start with the fist. You want to be very aroused and very wet. Like sloppy, soak-the-sheets wet. And make sure you’ve got lube handy, because a lot of juices will get soaked into the skin, which is good, as it helps it stretch and give and go back in place when it’s all over.
  • Begin small and work up. One finger, two, three. Once you bridge up from three fingers to four, he should be folding his fingers in, making his pinking and pointer fingers touch.

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  • Once you’re comfortable at this level, have him fold his thumb in, encircling it with his other fingers.
  • Now we come to the hard part. The knuckles are the widest part of the hand to get by. The only advice I can really give is to go slow, eighth-of-an-inch by eighth-of-an-inch slow. And use lube. Lots of it. Slow and steady.
  • I find it much easier if I’m playing with my clit at this point. The pain level can get high, but mix it with a bit of pleasure and I cum like crazy. And the muscle spasms from the orgasms help to draw his hand in. If you have a Wand, use it. I promise you won’t regret it.
  • Once you get past the thumb knuckle, it’s smooth sailing. Once the whole of the hand starts to slide in, his fingers should naturally fold over his thumb, making the “fist.”
  • When his hand is fully inserted in your pussy, take a moment and breathe. I like to feel it, reach down and feel how fully stretched I am around his wrist. It’s the embodiment of his control over me and my trust in him.
  • Now that his fist is in there, it’s time for the movement. And there are a few different
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    strategies here. One way is just the simple opening and closing of his fingers, which can feel freaking amazing. A lot of movement is not necessary, as it’s rather tight inside. Another option is for him to move his whole hand forward and back, just like he would with his fingers if he was finger fucking you. Not too much, and not too rough, as it is very easy to bruise your cervix.

  • Now you get to play around. See what you like, what feels good. So go ahead, have some fun!
  • And then comes the tricky part. The exit. I’m sure most of you know that just about everything is easier to get into than out of, and a fist in your vagina is no different. I tend to find the extraction often times just as painful, if not more so, than the entrance. Just remember to reverse what you did. Slowly (very slowly, remember how long it took you to get the damn hand in there, don’t try and get it out in 10 seconds) begin pulling out, and be extra careful around the knuckles, as this is the thickest part of the hand. Again, I find it helpful to pay some attention to my clit at this point, although at this stage I tend to just put pressure on it, as I’m most likely overly sensitive.

So there you go. You’ve been fisted. Be careful, it can become very addicting. And remember to do your kegels; they help before, during, and after.

If anyone has any more advice, add it below in the comments. Please! These tips are based solely on my own experience and who knows if they work for anyone else.

And a special *thank you* to WordPress, for surprising me with all the fisting pics!