Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
I submit to M. And although I should not attempt to predict the future, I can’t ever imagine submitting to anyone else. Don’t get me wrong, it different circumstances, I could see myself bottoming to someone, or topping for that matter, but not submitting. I will never be collared to someone else and he will be the only Sir I ever have.
And I don’t think it has to do with the fact we’re married or that he is my husband. It has more to do with our relationship, our connection, our ability to trust each other. I don’t think I could give that gift to someone else. It is too deep in my soul and in my heart. Something, that no matter what the future holds, is only his.
As I’ve mentioned before, my submission is not only in the bedroom, but part of our daily life. But the more I think on this, I realize this has little to do with rules or obligations. It does not matter who’s fucking who or what we call one another. Because my submission, more than anything, is a mindset. It’s how I want to devote myself to M, be all I can be for him. It’s how I know he’ll protect me, care for me, nurture me.
Take that away, and it’s just sex. Fun sex, but just sex nonetheless. If M were never to spank me, twist his hand into my hair, or wrap his fingers around my neck, I would still be submissive to him. I would still submit to his will, where ever it would take me. And I would trust in him, that it was just where I needed to be.